And of course our sexual fantasies are also about the longing to be near another person, the longing to literally feel another body of flesh and blood. And about wanting
to become one with this other person in a way that can only be reached by surrendering and coming into each other. But the continuous tension that dominates our lives is caused by the contradiction within ourselves. Our masculine side challenges our feminine
pole, our animus tickles our anima, our mind thinks he is the boss of our soul, Yang and Yin struggle for the biggest space. And this very tension changes into excitement every time we meet a man or a woman who awakens our animus or our anima and sets our
bellies on fire. Aha, is he the One or is she? And then the game recommences. After rose buds and moonbeams the conflicts and the fear to lose ourselves or our loved one follow. But in the end it will become clear that becoming whole can only be accomplished
within ourselves. Becoming one with another human being is not the same as becoming one with our own ‘other half’, but the one cannot exist without the other. That is why I plead for granting ourselves our lust and desire. Let’s compare
it to gold-ore, that is not to be found on the surface. You have to dig for it and if you find it, you will have to purify it to find gold. Throwing it away would be a pity, maybe even a sin.