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The fear of not being good enough causes our reluctance to say wholeheartedly Yes to each other. We are too afraid of what will happen if we say Yes and the other says
No or Yes But. Our fear of not being valuable enough will prove to be true. At least, it does if we stay with the No and do not ask what it is about. If I am certain he says No because he thinks I am not pretty, nice, lovable or intelligent enough, I am the
one who says No to me first because I do not dare to ask what his No is about. How can we know why we are rejected if we do not check what we suppose? Maybe it is not about me but about him, because he is afraid he cannot live up to my sky high expectations?
If I do not ask, I will never know. And that is where the challenge is.