Looking for Satisfaction
If our basic needs were not answered
during our youth, they will keep asking for attention when we are grown-ups. We will go on searching for, what we did not get then, when we needed it badly. Our longing will direct our lives in the undercurrent and it will leave painful traces in the
First basic need is
to have a place on earth and know that we belong
Every human being has a right to have his or her own place and space. It
starts early. A child that is being born needs its own place. The first and most literally own place of a child is the womb. By carrying the child in her body the mother gives implicitly the message: ‘You have a place in me and I will take care of you.’
Children love to play with having a place: they built huts, they hide away, they creep into holes and play changing trees... Later the own place will become more a spiritual one by creating a world of books, stories, music, hobby’s, clubs, sport.
If a child has the feeling it belongs, is depending except on its family on its social surroundings. A child belongs to this family, this neighbourhood, this school,
this social class. When a family is moving a lot and a child often loses its school and friends it can become unbalanced because it does not have enough time to root and feel the ground.