Basic Needs and Fears
A human being suffers most of the suffering he fears and never was or will be his share. (Dutch expression)
In my search for wisdom and truth I often go to foreign countries, literally and also symbolically by reading. In the very beginning of my career as a therapist, I became fascinated by the Jungian psychologist Fritz Riemann*. He wrote a book titled in German ‘Die Fähigkeit zu Lieben’, in Dutch – translated into English – ‘To love is to live’.
I felt touched by his theory of four basic fears and four demands life poses us to overcome them. Time and time again, when I need structure in my own life or guidance for a client, I wonder where I am or where we are in the light of the wisdom of Riemann. It has helped me to ground and not get lost in the vastness of possibilities in therapy land. I do not think it is about absolute truth, but do believe it can show us a way of becoming lighter, more free, independent, to feel better and to get an idea of what there is to explore in the undercurrent.