Basic Needs: protection, safety

If everything went as it should you were as a child so protected from the outside world that you could develop an inner shield that distinguished outside and inside. This shield can keep inside what is vulnerable and soft and keep outside what is hard and dangerous.  

It is about experiencing safety. If you did not learn to protect yourself, you will harden to maintain your self in the outside world.  Protection you get by clothing, by warmth, by being cuddled in when you go to sleep, by lullabies or simply by feeling the presence of your parents or caretakers. True is that you can also feel unsafe when there is too much presence of the family. Like when everybody shares the same space and knows everything of each other. 

 

Questions: how safe do you feel now in your own house? And at work?And in the street?How does this relate to the family you grew up in?

 

Demand: to overcome the fear of guilt and punishment

we have to become autonomous